It Has To Be You

As I was thinking about a topic for this week, this title kept swimming around in my head. I’m a firm believer in teaching my kids as much as possible, and the topic this week is no different. In some form or reference, I mention this to my children often as a reminder that they have to worth for what they want. It’s a testament to having a strong work ethic.

When I say it has to be you, I’m saying that you, no matter who you are, YOU have to want the things you say you want. Okay, that sounds obvious right? Well, not exactly…

So, we’ve all heard the phrase anything worth having is worth working for. I agree, though some of us are born into more than others. I want to go a little deeper. Whether you are a teen or an adult, if it applies to you, it applies to you.

Someone can not, or should I say should not want something more for you than you want it for yourself. Your parents can’t want you to be the next biochemist, engineer, professional athlete, doctor, lawyer, etc. You have to want it for yourself. That means you have to put in the time and effort to try and make things happen for you.

Let’s relate this to college and scholarships for a moment. Your parents shouldn’t want you to get scholarships more than you want to get the scholarship. Are you are willing to work to get it? They should want it for you because they want you to go even further than they did and fulfill your dreams, but you need to want it for yourself. You also need to be willing to put in the work to get it.

The same goes with anything else. Let’s say you want to be a professional athlete, but you seldom practice unless asked to, then you are not putting in the time to make that dream a reality. If that is what you want to be, then you need to be in the gym before and after practice shooting free throws, jump shots, dribbling, learning the plays and overall just making yourself a better player. You also need to make yourself teachable. You could have all the talent in the world, but if you are not teachable, you are going to miss out on a lot.

If you want to be a business owner and work for yourself, then you need to do your research. Some of the things you will need to do will be to determine what type of problem you want to solve through your business. Successful businesses create solutions to problems. Next you’ll want to create a product whether tangible or intangible. Somehow figure out your niche and how it fits in with your business, make a business plan, do the work, then execute the plan.

So many times, we see the end result, but they don’t see the work that goes into achieving that end result. Some of us think movie stars became overnight sensations. We don’t see all the auditions they went to, all the rejections they received, all the time and effort they put into honing their craft. We just see them on the big screen one day and poof, they’re famous. Even most of them had to work for what they have. It wasn’t handed to them.

The truth of the matter is that you’re no different. You can achieve your dreams with persistence and hard work. I cannot guarantee your success, but I can tell you that if you don’t try, then you will never know what could have been. Find something constructive to dedicate your time to. What’s your dream? What is your plan to get to your dream? If you don’t have one, make one.

If you’re going to do this college thing, then start planning now. Don’t wait until the last minute, do it right the first time. Be intentional about earning the grades. Be intentional about searching for scholarships. Be intentional about choosing the best college for you. Be intentional about planning for your future. Be intentional about being you.



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